Sisters - In it for the long-haul

Anyone that goes into adoption with blinders on is a moron because it is not an easy process, costs a lot of money and is a big investment in time. Nor is it an easy process when you get back home. Our girls are still trying to workout their relationship. There is a lot of anger between them 50% of the time and that means there is a lot of energy in the house. It has only been a month but it feels a lot longer.

Dasha, seems to have forgotten where she came from and is starting to get an "I'm entitled" attitude which is really starting to irritate us. As she begins to communicate more and understand more she is more vocal about what "she" wants. We've already started to address that and that has not gone over well. I won't put up with her poor attitude but try to correct her in a loving way. I recognize that she comes from a place of fear and a place of dysregulation. She has not had the opportunity to bond with a parent, she has not had the opportunity to be lovingly disciplined and she has not had any boudaries established for her. It will take some time and we're obviously in it for the long-haul but it is not easy.

I don't want to give the impression that our house is chaos because it's not. We have just been used to Amber, to a quiet household and to a child whose heart is as big as the earth. Dasha is a different child and we just need to give it time. 75% of the time, our household is under control with laughter and love. It's the 25% that is taking the most time.